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Monday, March 26, 2012

" I do this to make up for some of the wrong I have done in my life."

Beth was feeling guilty for saving her elderly patient. The poor woman is still on a respirator. My husband talked to Beth and said that she could not just let the woman die without a will that stated she did not want to be resusitated.

I told her that she did right by the woman and now the situation has to play itself out. The woman's son will have to make the decision of what to do next. She gave the woman a chance and that was right eventhough at some point we do not want to let people suffer either. I also said that caring for the weak and sick is noble work that I admire.

Beth said, "Thanks Mom, I do this to try and make up for some of the wrong that Ihave done in my life."

Lou said that at 26 years of age eventhough her son was not done with drugs at that point he started to feel remorseful for his misdeeds. It appears that this is where Beth is right now. I pray that God protects her and your loved ones as well, while they go through this darkness. 


  1. I have heard from some addicts that shame over their actions drives them back out...this is where NA helps. Hearing the stories, sharing their guilt, helps many addicts move past that. Anyway, at some point in recovery the addict must own up to those they have hurt (stolen from, etc), come to a point of acceptance, and move on. Guilt and shame seem to be a part of that process.

    What I find most encouraging is Beth talking about her feelings to you both. Continue to let her know you are really listening and are interested and empathetic.

    But then, you know all this..LOL. You are doing an awesome job.

  2. Oh the guilt and shame our girls carry. :o(

  3. Thanks for sharing this, I think its a really good sign that she recognized this and is talking about it. She's growing and allowing herself to feel..that's good.

  4. Bless Beth for her compassion and empathy for others. Those are wonderful traits.