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Saturday, March 31, 2012

My Daughter is in Jail

DH just got a phone call from an x boyfriend of Beth. He said that his neighbor came over to tell him that Beth had called from a county jail which is two counties away from here.


That is all I know. She has not called me nor her father. No one in my family nor my husband's family has ever been in jail. This is where drugs lead.


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  1. You can breath easy for now, your daughter is safe.
    Praying for you and your family. I wish you the best of luck.

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  2. Oh Anna, My heart just sank when I read that. I am so sorry. She is safe for now, but still, I know how those phone calls feel. I used to get physically sick when we got those calls. ((HUG))

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  3. I am so sorry. I hope she calls soon so at least you know she is okay and wht is going on.

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  4. Four words for you, Anna:

    Don't bail her out.

    Consequences are good.

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  5. I totally agree with Lou. Do not bail out. I bailed my son out after four days and he left immediately for a fix. Four days of hard core detox on a jail floor and he is still using after a year.

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    1. That sounds like something Beth would do.

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  6. I was not expecting to see this when I logged on! Has she ever been in jail before? Sometimes landing in jail is what's needed for a wake-up call, lets hope for that.

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  7. I don't know how I feel about this.. for you.. On one hand, it's sorta nice not getting those calls.. you aren't dragged into the drama and forced to make a choice of what to do. On the other hand.. it would be nice if you knew what's up and why... but bottom line, she is safe, she is paying her consequences, and although it's not the ideal place for our children, at least we know where they are. I hope you can stay balanced during all this. Hugs, Kelly

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  8. I was the same way. Noone in our family has ever been in jail. It was a first for me. We did not bail her out and she spent 4 months there right through Thanksgiving and Christmas five years ago. I went to see her every week and it was the heardest thing I ever had to do. It is a double edged sword, being in jail. On one hand they are safe but on the other they learn so much from the other inmates, stuff that is not necessarily valuable information for us nonaddicts. One thing she told me was: Mom, I will never ever go to jail again. So far, she has not been back. Hang in there, I know how tough it is.

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  9. I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. As parents, we can only watch over them. What they do with their life is still entirely up to them. I just hope she’ll learn from the whole incident. Stay strong, Anna!

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  10. How old is your daughter? Why don’t you visit her instead? I guess she’s just feeling guilty that’s why she hasn’t contacted you or her father. I hope everything goes well in the end.

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  11. This matter is truly sensitive to tackle as it touches the life and future of our children. But as a parent, we are the ones who should be looking after them and ensuring their welfare. Whether or not you bail her out of jail is your decision and what you believe is best for her. But, please, don't rebel along with her. Soothe her and make her feel your love. You, as her parents, are the ones who can pick her up, and make her treasure the life she's been given.
    Buford Embry

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