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Wednesday, April 28, 2010

A Joy and Comfort to ME

As I was finishing my last post my youngest daughter breezed in from College. She was excited about getting an A on a power point presentation and lecture she had to give as part of her BA in English. Her excitement about the project and Harriet Beecher Stowe was infectious.

I called my husband and we both sat down to listen to her presentation. She was dressed in heels and a business like simple black dress. I could imagine her as a professor in a lecture hall. Her delivery was very smooth and engaging.

My husband congratulated her and gave good reasons why he thought it was excellent. T hen he went back to playing with the Kereoke Machine.  I sat with Joy for the next 40 minutes talking about literature, feminism and believing in ones self. She talked about various of her professors and friends. I knew most of them.

This ability to switch gears from preoccupation with my troubles to living the joy of the present moment is key to my recovery. I could not do this 3 years ago. I suffered from the addiction and did not notice so many of the blessings around me.

My son asked to borrow 20 bucks for a haircut. He has an interview tomorrow for a management trainee program at his job. We are very pleased with this development as well. All of the sudden he sees that he needs to do more.

I learned this from alanon and I also learned it from my fellow bloggers. In fact, I think that I started following each and every one of you because you are determined to have a life in spite of  your troubles. Thanks to all of you.


  1. I'm happy you know you are making progress and are able to see the good in your life!

  2. It sounds as if there is much to be grateful for. Al-Anon showed me even the simplest of things are a reason to rejoice.

  3. What a wonderful, encouraging message. Thank you.

  4. Yes, there is much good in our lives!! So much gladness to be found amidst dealing with the sadness of addiction. I'm glad you were able to switch gears, and enjoy your daughter's presentation, and the conversation with her. She sounds like wonderful young woman! Prayers for all continue! :)

  5. Good to hear you are living your life and are getting joy out of it! That is what it's all about. Some days it's harder than others, but it's a learning process and we are getting better.