We are not quite empty nesters yet. Our youngest daughter is still home but the older two are on their own.
The youngest, Christine, is finishing up her bachelor's degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology. She is 23 years old. She works as a waitress and commutes to both college and her internship site which are in opposite directions.
Her boyfriend comes over here several times a week but her schedule is so variable that we do not count on seeing her for dinner. Both Christine and her boyfriend are very musically inclined. They often play music or sing while they are here which is very enjoyable. My husband and I both enjoy music. In fact, that is how we met.
I am Beth's power of attorney and representative payee. If anything were to happen to me that responsibility would go to Christine. Upon occasion she has taken care of Beth's finances for a period of time to give me a break. Beth does not usually torture them to the same extent as she would persist with me. They do listen for a little while but they quickly state their boundaries and move on. I am trying to learn the same from Christine, my husband, all of you, and alanon. I am trying to detach with love.
The youngest, Christine, is finishing up her bachelor's degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology. She is 23 years old. She works as a waitress and commutes to both college and her internship site which are in opposite directions.
Her boyfriend comes over here several times a week but her schedule is so variable that we do not count on seeing her for dinner. Both Christine and her boyfriend are very musically inclined. They often play music or sing while they are here which is very enjoyable. My husband and I both enjoy music. In fact, that is how we met.
I am Beth's power of attorney and representative payee. If anything were to happen to me that responsibility would go to Christine. Upon occasion she has taken care of Beth's finances for a period of time to give me a break. Beth does not usually torture them to the same extent as she would persist with me. They do listen for a little while but they quickly state their boundaries and move on. I am trying to learn the same from Christine, my husband, all of you, and alanon. I am trying to detach with love.
How nice....I can just imagine your daughter and her boyfriend playing music and you and your husband enjoying it. There is nothing like live music being played in the house. Bless you Anna.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to Beth not pestering others like she does you. Andrew NEVER bothered his Dad (and would not dream of calling his sister) like he did me.
ReplyDeleteThe demands became emotionally and physically exhausting. I'm glad your daughter is willing to help out occasionally.
I'm starting to sense a little peace here, Anna, and I could not be happier for you.
I have nothing to add, but I wanted to say that my daughter is in the same major. She will be 23 when she graduates, God willing, as it is a six year program at her University.
ReplyDeleteMy son was an equal opportunity mooch...but he always hits me the hardest.