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Sunday, July 11, 2010

Perfectly Normal

When Beth and DH came home from the movies they said they had a great time. Beth was cracking jokes and ate a little dinner with us. Anyone in this world would have thought her a perfectly normal 24 year old tonight.

On the 22 we will find out if her cervical dysplasia has progressed to cervical cancer. Apparently this is a very very slow moving type........ worse case scenario hysterectomy. The fact remains that she did not do her 3 month check ups even though I asked and she told me she did.  She told me tonight that she might just have a hysterectomy instead of freezing and having it come back over and over. I encouraged her to take one day at a time. Maybe it will not show cancer. Maybe the proceedure she already have will be enough. Maybe one freeze will be enough. We just have to wait and see. Possibly get second opinion.

She is supposed to come by tomorrow at 11 so that we can look for a rental. Some sort of location stability would certainly be an improvement at this time! How can she be so crazy one day and so perfectly normal on another? I guess now that we are not living with her, we will see more of the pulled together Beth. I hope so and I sure do pray that she starts making more progress.


  1. I'm praying that its not cancer! Pleased keep us updated.

  2. I hope the best for her. One day at a time sounds good to me.

  3. I hope that you get a second opinion. I had a similar condition which was, thankfully, taken care of with the freezing. But, I did change doctors and my new doctor said that the freezing was "old school" and that she would have cut out the affected area. She talked about clean edges.
    I think the behavior being inconsistent is what confuses everyone. (Like what I wrote about in a recent post where my father insisted that if my daughter can behave so "normally" then the times she isn't, she is clearly pulling the wool over our eyes..!) Of course, we want to see our daughters having fun but it begs the question of why they can have such moments of clarity and stress-free enjoyment back to back with chaos and unhappiness. It is hard to experience it as an observer, but it must be equally difficult, if not more so, to be the person who is at the mercy of the roller coaster of emotions.
    I revel in my daughter's happiness when I see it. I assume it was the same for you.

  4. Praying that it's not cancer...The waiting is so hard...