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Friday, February 12, 2010

Might come home tommorrow

Mom in law is better than before but still gets fearful for no apparent reason. Her delusions make her fearful. She was never a fearful person. They say she will come home tommorrow if she has a good night. She wants to come home and I hope that we can distract her from her fears.

She is more distractable now than a few days ago. Yesterday, she seemed perfectly normal. So it looks like good days and bad days to come.

I went back to school today. We are finally getting dug out. My house is sooooooo clean. I had lots of time to devote to it. My youngest daughter looked around and said "everything is perfect....this is just not right!"

I started reading Fly Lady again. She tells you how to keep your house in great order by using multiple emails, a web site and a lot of humor. The woman is amazing as I have always hated house work but when I read her messages they really get me moving fast, organized and efficient. The best part is that it is free.


We are helping my youngest (Christine) buy a car as hers is on it's way out. We will put down the down payment and she will make the payments. She is in college and works as a waitress. She offered to quit waitressing and take care of her Nana. We said that she could help from time to time but that she still needs to go to college and have normal 21 year old activites. She said she would have time to do that later Nana needs help now.

Fortunately, money is not a big issue for mom-in-law. We will keep her in her own home for as long as possible. There are options. It is a great comfort to me to know that Christine wants to help and has a loving skillful way with ill people.

3 comments:

  1. oh wow.. I know the flylady... lol. I made my own weekly schedule last winter..

    But than after listening to al-anon phone bridges.. on speaker phone (keep pressing *6 to increase the volume) I clean more easily now.. lol.. al-anon phone meetings means a clean .. organized; and totally decluttered house.. lol.(multitasking)

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  2. It is great of your daughter to offer, care giving is difficult. I really don't know if I would be up to it, long term. My mom is busy and active at 79 years old. I pray if and when the time comes, I will know the right decisions to make.

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  3. i'm really glad your mom is doing better!!

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