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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

update

Mother in law still in the hospital but seems a little better. At least she is not afraid. She thought that she won a tennis tournament at 102 years old.


We are told that it might be better to place her in an Alzheimers facility sooner than later as they will not take her at all if she progresses to agressive behavior. She was kicking the nurses so I don't know what is going to happen. This is brand new territory for us.

Beth called my husband. She said that she will finish there soon. She is going to stay with a friend from her current facility and wait for a long term free program there in Del Ray. Her dad sent her another cell phone. Now, I will not know where she is once again.

She has told me the same thing several times. Let me come to your house while I am waiting to get into a long term program. Then, she does not go.

I sent her email with all the options that I would pay for so she can get into a long term program right away but that is not her choice. She has not wanted to talk to me as she has not answered phone calls or email.

Here we go again! I am trying to give her over to God and feel calm in the middle of this hurricane that is Beth's life. I know now that I can not make her do anything. Her dad said to her..."Glad you are going to a long term program. Call me when you are all signed up cause we really can't have a relationship with you while these drugs are involved.

I am powerless but I do not like powerless.

6 comments:

  1. I hope you can find the best solution for your mom in law.

    Stay strong, sounds like you are doing good. I hope Beth is serious this time.

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  2. Hi Anna - I don't remember if I've commented on your blog before, but I have been following it. When you said "I am powerless but I don't like powerless", I thought of a quote that I like:

    "When we can sit in the face of insanity or dislikes and be free from the need to make it different, then we are free".

    It's a work in progress for me.

    Not to make light of your mother-in-law's situation, but it made me smile when you said she thought she had won a tennis tournament!

    You and Beth are in my thoughts and prayers!

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  3. Thanks for the quotes and encouragement.

    I really want to bring mom in law back home. At least keep her close to us. Maybe if we take turns staying the night with her and the caregiver she will not get so far into her delusions. I will ask the doctor about this.

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  4. For me being powerless was a relief from carrying the burdens of others. I hope that there will be a good solution for your mother in law.

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  5. I will pray for your mother-in-law. What a blessing that it sounds like you have a great relationship with her - that you'd be concerned to bring her back home. I've been blessed with 2 sets of great in-laws (not at the same time of course!), but I know that is not always the case.
    I hope you're finding your way out of the snow... at least know Beth is somewhere warm :) Del Ray is about an hour north of where I used to live - I'd love to be back down there - it's cold here (we're North of Daytona) - of course it's all relative.
    Since we're sharing quotes :) I'll share one I really liked that I found helpful - of course mine came from a Greg Isles novel - not a philosopher - but a father said to his son in the book, "Our greatest hopes and our worse fears are seldom realized."
    B/c I know how fears can run our minds with our daughters! (and those with sons too!)
    God bless.

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  6. Thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I am very grateful to have enjoyed my mother-in-law all these years. We are friends and I know that often does not happen. I am also gratful that Del Ray is a warm spot.

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