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Sunday, August 12, 2012

Barb B Q and Angst

We went to a nice barb b que today. The weather broke and it was great to sit outdoors without the sweltering heat.

Tommorrow morning I will take Beth to the skin specialist. She has an alarming looking rash all over her arms, legs, stomach and back. Her face is pretty clear. She has been to two doctors already that did not know what it is. One told her to come back in a week after giving her a steroid cream. The other gave her a steriod shot and told her to go to a dermitologist.

You can just imagine all the things that I could let myself imagine but I am using all of my compartmentalizing skills to just wait to see what the Dr. says and deal with it from there.

In the afternoon, I am taking my niece who is in Law school out to lunch. Then we will go to see her new apartment which is right across from Rutgers in Camden. She wanted me to meet her there but I said that I would not go there without an escort. She laughed and plans to escort me after lunch.

I will take Ron's advice and tell Beth that I love her and believe in her. Bye for now.


  1. I love you and believe in you.....what a gift to give to our girls. I hope the rash is nothing serious.

  2. I left a comment on your last post, then it disappeared. I forgot to come back and comment!

    Your approach with Beth is exactly what our clergy advised. I've also found if I tell other family members when my son is going to be present, they treat him nicely, as opposed to "springing" him on them. He is in and out, and always moving, so they don't know what to expect unless I give them a head's up.

    Your class load sounds like a lot, but obviously you know what you can handle. My daughter is teaching a class in addition to her graduate studies and a baby. It's manageable because most of the class time is online, she only has to go to the classroom two or three times a semester.

    Hang in there Anna. My son and many of his fellows got tired of the street life. He is no model of sobriety, but he knows enough to stay out of trouble with the law these days. He no longer goes on hell bent runs.

    The worst of it is over, and I've accepted this may be as good as it gets.

    Happy Birthday. I liked 56, it seemed I found contentment with who I was at that age.

  3. Thanks Lu,

    You have been a rock of encouragement to me.

    Beth's life is less chaotic now. That is not to say that it is good just less chaotic with a smaller more predictable cast of characters.

    Such a hard lesson, that you can do all that you know is right, give it your best shot and they still remain stuck.

    Same thing happens to people battling other life threatening diseases but at least they do not suffer the same stigma.