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Monday, June 7, 2010

Beautiful Day, Disturbing Events

We are now in our sixth week with Beth home. She was doing pretty well up to a few days ago. I actually heard her and her brother Josh exchange a few words in passing!

She started to go down hill on Friday but pulled herself together for a good day on Saturday. She helped her Dad with a lot of handyman stuff all day and then watched movies with friends and her Dad at our house.

On Sunday she started to be miserable and today as well she did not want to get off the couch eventhough she looked clear eyed and alert. She looked haunted and pissed off. I asked if she had slept and she said yes. I asked if something happened and she said no. She said she is pissed because there is no food in the house. (There was a lot of food in the house.)  I emailed the doctor.

A few minutes later I got a call from Beth demanding that I send her to a hotel before she slaps Joy or wrecks her computer. She was very angry at Joy. Beth was convinced that Joy was avoiding her chores so that Beth would have to do them.

I tried to convince Beth to call the Dr. I did agree that Joy was wrong to accuse Beth of being lazy and not having a job so she should do more. Beth was crying and saying that she is not lazy she is just sick. I said that she had a good point there but that I did not want the threats. I will not tolerate violence or property distruction. I will send her to the hospital if this happens.

I called Dr. Vasquez who had already read my email. I called her on her cell which she regularly gives to her patients and their loved ones.  She said that this is her mania breaking through. She said to give her half a seroquel now, and a whole one at bed time. She also said for me to check and see if she is taking the other meds. Beth would not comply with the meds. I tried to get her to take her lamictal or topomax. She would not do that either. (She has been skipping doses of both of these.)

Her father tried too. HE offered to take her to dinner. He tried to get her to take her meds. She said she is going out with Jim her friend. Dave said to her not to do anything foolish. Call us if you need us to get you.

Beth did calm down and quit making threats but she would not comply with her meds. She says the seroquel makes her hands numb so she will only take before bed. I tried to reason with her that it is just this once not all the time. She is very likely to use drugs in this state so please pray that she will not.

Dave says she can't live here using so here we go again. Here we go again with the not complying with meds, mania and upset in the family. Oh well, the family is not too upset. We all see it for mania and we are not being sucked in personally. It is still very hard to cope with even when you do not take it personally. Right now she is mad at  Joy, me and her Dr. She thinks that her friend Jim will make it all better. I said, honey you will just end up fighting with him too. She said no I won't and off she went.

Thanks for your prayers.


  1. I hope she is ok, and will come home sober, and a little more clear minded. Is jim addicted to drugs?

    I get in shitty moods (what addict doesn't though) when I have intense urges to use, but know that I shouldn't, or cant. I had a pretty bad day this weekend and it turned into me wanting to use, and being bored out of my mind.. but I knew I was just being stupid. I never take out my wanting to use on other people though. I'm almost a year clean from opiates, I did have a slip up with meth. I'm getting side tracked. Can you tell I have zero people to talk to about this?

    I hope her behavior passes.

    -solo girl

  2. Prayers continue.... I am hopeful that she will stabilize and this will pass...

  3. I will keep you both in my prayers. Hope it all calms.

  4. Praying for you both. This is so hard...

  5. This is a very familiar dynamic for me. My daughter would never take her meds, either. Eventually, I realized it was just one more thing I was powerless over.

    I will keep you all in my prayers. Hugs to you.

  6. Thanks to all of you. It is a comfort to me to rely on your prayers and as I have said be able to ask for them!

    Solo Girl,

    Thanks for your comments. You go girl! I am proud of you for all your time clean. People do grow and change. I have seen it many times. God Bless YOU and feel free to write me here anytime.

  7. Anna, I hope that things will work out. Maybe the situation is not upsetting, but it sure sounds unmanageable.